A 5-Star Review: ‘Daughters Of Dementia’ is a book that I wish had been available when I had to deal with a spouse suffering from this life changing disease.  I would now recommend it to just about everyone, because as we age, almost all of us will be confronted with dementia.  The authors share their heartfelt journey with helpful advice, encouragement, and even a dash of necessary humor here and there.  But the great theme is always how understanding, tenderness, and love can get you through this all too common difficult disease!

Roy Skagen, Assistant Chief of Police, Seattle Police Department (Ret.)

 

A 5-Star Review:  Once I started reading Daughters Of Dementia, I couldn’t put it down.  I can’t even put into words how great this book is.  So many people are going to benefit from it.   Leslie Birkland and Lindsey Denhof did such a great job sharing their story, I really felt like I was having a conversation with them.

Tina D., Canyon Lake, CA

 

Author Leslie Birkland with News Reporter Phil Farrar

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Heidi

May 8, 2018

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“Daughters of Dementia” is a heartfelt and sometimes humorful perspective of the devastating effects of dementia on one family. Two daughters take turns sharing what their journey was like, and in a simple yet entertaining way, remind us of the humanness behind the “lost person.” They don’t shy away from some ugly truths, but face them head on and admit how hard it can be. This easy to read book ends with a really thoughtful example of what it might be like from the patient’s perspective as well as other helpful insights. A quick great read for someone who is dealing with the disastrous effects of dementia.
Janet Spangler

May 18, 2018

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A quick read, yet covers a variety of emotions and issues. Once I picked it up, I didn’t put it down until I was finished with it. The book tells how a variety of people deal with “the long goodbye” that we all dread. Years ago I found it very difficult to accept that my mom had dementia, and was no longer the mom I once knew. Some of the analogies presented in this book may have helped me back then. I recommend it for anyone who has or is facing something similar. It would also make a good “non finger-pointing” gift.
Amazon Customer

May 12, 2018

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I really appreciate Leslie’s and Lindsey’s sincere accounts of their father’s dementia. The sweet, funny, and honest anecdotes and messages shared in this book resonate with me, having had two grandparents pass away from dementia/Alzheimer’s. I highly recommend this book to all readers, whether or not you or a loved one has been affected by dementia/Alzheimer’s.
Alexander

May 17, 2018

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I purchased Daughters Of Dementia at an Alzheimer function event.

A must read for anyone who has a family member or friend suffering from dementia.

Terry L.

May 18, 2018

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I received Daughters of Dementia as an Amazon Kindle gift and I’m glad I did. My beloved aunt died of dementia an it was comforting to read a conversational book that not only answered many of my questions, but gave me solace in knowing that I am not alone.
Amazon Customer

June 18, 2018

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A wonderful easy read that helped me understand dementia so much more. It gives you a renewed sense of compassion and understanding when someone you love is diagnosed with this horrible disease.

Author Leslie Birkland with D’London and Deana Molle`

 

OnlineBookClub.org Official Review: Daughters Of Dementia by Leslie Birkland – 4 out of 4 stars
by desantismt_17

[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of “Daughters Of Dementia” by Leslie Birkland.]

I’ll never forget my first experience with Alzheimer’s and Dementia. I was fourteen, volunteering after school at an assisted living facility. One day, my supervisor took me up to the “lockdown” floor. I climbed aboard the elevator, and my supervisor used a key to get us moving. When the doors opened, I was greeted with an identical hallway to those found on the second and third floors. It wasn’t until I followed my supervisor to the communal kitchen where I met two women who repeated the same syllable over and over again that it hit me. These people were not well. I went on to meet other ladies. Some were just forgetful. Some lacked the ability to perform basic daily tasks. By the time I got back on the elevator, fourteen-year-old me was terrified. I never wanted to encounter another person with Alzheimer’s or Dementia again.

Imagine my shock when, a year later, my grandfather was diagnosed with Dementia.

Daughters of Dementia is a tribute to Duane, father of the book’s co-authors, Leslie Birkland and Lindsey Denhof. Through two very different, but also similar, views, these step-sisters describe Duane’s life—from meeting Leslie’s mother through his journey with Dementia. At times both heartbreaking and funny, the authors set out to show those who are embroiled with this disease that they are not alone. Dementia is no one’s fault, and the family caregivers can only do so much.

I found this book easy to read and understand. Both Birkland and Denhof write with clear, simple prose. I felt as if I were sitting around with friends and talking about loved ones who suffer from the terrible memory-stealing disease. For those watching a loved one perish, this book would serve as an invaluable companion.

One of the most important ideas this book communicates is not to keep Dementia a secret. At one point, Duane’s family moves into a new apartment. Soon after, the building manager pulls Leslie aside to say the office has been getting complaints about Duane’s behavior. One of the characteristics of Dementia is the performing of socially odd or unacceptable actions as if they pose no issue. Birkland and Denhof offer examples like getting into someone’s car or staring out windows for hours on end. When the building manager brought such complaints to Leslie, she went against her mother’s wishes and informed the manager of Duane’s Dementia. Once the community was aware, the attitudes of the other residents went from complaining to helping. No one thought less of Duane or his family because of the Dementia. This is such an important idea to make clear. Dementia, like Cancer, is a disease. It just happens to change a person’s personality and steal their memories. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Sickness happens.

Aside from being an emotional tool, this book is also a wealth of resources for Dementia patience and their families. There is information about the disease sprinkled throughout. At the end, there is a list of organizations that provide support for Dementia patience and their caregivers. I was so glad to see the list. When my grandfather was diagnosed, my family was at a loss for so long. Having this list would have helped us, and will no doubt be of great help to others seeking support.

After all this, you may be wondering about my statement earlier that part of this book was funny. My response—of course it is. No, it’s not hilarious or worthy of a comedy routine, but there are little things that are just so sad that they have to also be funny. As Birkland puts it “Because if you don’t laugh, you’ll just be crying all day.” I can’t agree more. Watching my grandfather lose to this disease broke my heart. It wasn’t funny at all, but I had to laugh—had to learn that it wasn’t all terrifying, if I wanted to keep my own sanity.

With no reservations, I rate Daughters of Dementia 4 out of 4 stars. The book is very well-edited with only a few small errors. The wealth of information presented and the emotional support this story lends to anyone dealing with a loved one’s Dementia firmly bring this book above a 3-star rating. I would recommend this book for anyone needing somewhere to turn when this disease feels like too much. I also recommend it to anyone wishing to better understand Dementia. While I believe children should be made aware of the disease, this book may be beyond the comprehension of the very young. Though, it may help parents learn how to broach the topic with their kids. Really, this is an excellent read for just about anyone.